How well do you know your partner? Try these 24 questions
You might know their coffee order and still get their ideal weekend completely wrong. This game gives you twenty-four chances to guess what your partner would say. Some answers are small favourites, others are memories or plans you may never have asked about. Keep score on paper if you like, or just compare answers. It is a guessing game for two, not a relationship test.
How to play and keep score
Take one question at a time. Your partner writes their real answer while you write your guess, then reveal both. Swap roles and use the same question again. Give one point for a matching answer; for an open question, agree together whether the meaning matches. Each person can earn up to 24 points if you use the whole list. Paper and pens work best, but you can answer aloud too. No answers are entered on this website.
Round one: the little favourites
Start with things your partner chooses for themselves. Use what they like now, rather than what they ordered years ago. Let them decide whether a close guess counts, and keep the same rule for both players.
- What meal would I order after a long day?
- What drink would I choose at a café?
- Which film could I happily watch again?
- What snack would I buy for a journey?
- Would I rather sleep in or have an early start on a free day?
- What household job would I most like to stop doing?
- What small treat would cheer me up today?
- Which hobby would I spend a surprise free afternoon on?
When a guess misses, ask what changed or what you overlooked. An answer like “I don’t actually like that snack anymore” can be more useful than another easy point. You can learn the new favourite and use it next time.
Round two: your shared memories
For this round, guess how your partner remembers something. Two people can notice different details of the same day. The aim is to hear their version, rather than prove which memory is the official one.
- What did I first notice about you?
- Which early date do I remember most clearly?
- What meal have we made together that I would choose again?
- Which shared trip would I like to repeat?
- What moment with us still makes me laugh?
- What gift from you do I remember most?
- What was I most nervous about when we started dating?
- Which ordinary day together would I like to relive?
If you’ve only recently started dating, replace a question that doesn’t fit. “Which place would I like to visit with you?” can stand in for a trip you haven’t taken yet. You don’t need a long history to play.
Round three: what they would choose next
Now guess a preference or a plan. These answers are allowed to be unfinished. They are what your partner thinks today, not a promise you can hold them to later. Give them time to choose before the reveal.
- What skill would I like to learn next?
- Where would I choose for a short trip together?
- What would my ideal quiet evening with you look like?
- Who would I call first with good news, apart from you?
- What do I want more time for this year?
- What would I change first about our home?
- What new thing would I like us to try together?
- Which shared tradition would I like to keep in ten years?
Choose one answer you could act on soon, such as making time for a hobby or planning a short outing. Ask whether your partner actually wants help with it before turning a nice idea into a project.
What does your score mean?
Only how many guesses matched in this particular round. There is no score here that proves a relationship is good or bad, and there are no pass marks. A new couple may guess brilliantly; a long-term couple may discover preferences that have changed. Tell each other which answer surprised you and which one you were pleased they knew. If you play again later, change some questions so you’re listening rather than memorising a quiz key.
Ask something you haven’t guessed yet
Continue with relationship questions at the “Get closer” level. This time, skip the score and let each person give their own answer. You can always switch to a lighter level in the game.
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